Navigating Grief During the Holiday Season: Finding Comfort in the Midst of Loss

The holiday season is often described as a time of joy, togetherness, and celebration. We’ve been taught that holidays are a time we “should” be spending with our loved ones, namely, our families.  But for those who are grieving, it can feel overwhelming and bittersweet. What if we’ve lost the loved one with whom we spend our holidays? How do we cope when a loved one has died within the past year?

For many of us, the holidays are the hardest time of grieving. The memories of loved ones who are no longer here, the empty seat at the table, and the traditions that now feel incomplete can intensify feelings of sadness and loneliness. The sadness of losing someone feels more pronounced when it looks like everyone around us is happy.

And while New Years is a time for reflection, it also marks the passing of time. If our loved one died in 2024, the calendar change into 2025 may feel like we are further away from our loved one – we’ve gone into a new year, but they have not.

If you're struggling with grief as the holidays approach, know that you're not alone—and it’s okay to feel what you feel. Grief doesn’t take a holiday, but there are ways to navigate this season with grace and self-compassion. Here are some thoughtful tips to help you honor your emotions and find moments of peace.

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings

Grief is deeply personal, and there is no "right" way to experience it. Some days you may feel sadness; other days, you might feel moments of joy or even guilt for feeling happy. Allow yourself to feel without judgment. It’s okay to cry, laugh, or simply be.

2. Adjust Traditions if Needed

Traditions can be comforting, but they can also feel heavy when someone is missing. Consider adapting your holiday routines in ways that honor your loved one while meeting your current emotional needs. For example, you might light a candle in their memory, set aside time to share stories about them, or create a new tradition that feels meaningful.

3. Set Boundaries

The holidays often come with expectations of social gatherings and festivities. If attending certain events feels too overwhelming, give yourself permission to say no. You can gently let others know that you need time to care for yourself. Prioritize the activities and people who bring you comfort and understanding.

4. Lean on Your Support System

Grief can feel isolating, but you don’t have to carry it alone. Reach out to friends, family, or support groups who understand your loss. Sharing memories or simply talking about your feelings with someone who listens can be incredibly healing.

5. Honor Your Loved One

Finding ways to remember your loved one can bring comfort. This could be as simple as displaying a favorite photo, preparing their signature dish, or donating to a cause they cared about. These small acts of remembrance can help you feel connected to their presence.

6. Practice Self-Care

Grief can take a toll on your body and mind. Be gentle with yourself by prioritizing rest, nourishment, and moments of calm. Activities like journaling, meditating, or going for a walk in nature can help you process your emotions and find a sense of grounding.

7. Seek Professional Support

If grief feels too overwhelming to manage on your own, consider reaching out to a someone who specializes in loss. Professional guidance can provide valuable tools and a safe space to navigate your feelings.

8. Give Yourself Grace

The holidays might not feel the same this year. Healing takes time, and it’s perfectly normal for your emotions to ebb and flow. Be patient with yourself as you move through this season, and remember that it’s okay to find moments of joy amidst the grief.

A Gentle Reminder

Remember that grief is a reflection of love. It’s a testament to the bond you shared with the person you lost. While the holidays may amplify the ache of their absence, they also offer an opportunity to honor the love that remains. Take things one day at a time, and trust that with each step, you’re finding your way forward.

If you’re supporting someone who is grieving, offer your presence without judgment or expectation. Sometimes, the greatest gift is simply letting them know they’re not alone.

No matter where you are in your grief journey, may you find moments of comfort, connection, and hope this holiday season.